Happy endings?

Recently, my friends and i watch the movie - Our Times< 我们的少女时代> . Few years ago there was this craze over 《那些年我们一起追女孩》and everyone if not most was sad and heartbroken about the ending.  Both movies had invoke a warm and sweet feeling in our hearts and bring us back to our childhood, to the times where results seems to matter most. Some reminisce about their first love, some wish to experience such dramatic, heartwarming and romantic relationship at least once in their life while some just keep gasping at how hot the main leads look. Different feelings and different emotions are stirred. This also means the films are successful because, everyone who watched feel something for it. 《那些年》made a deeper impression in heart as it is more relatable, the emotions feels genuine and the ending reflect the sad truth of life . However, not trying to spoil anything but in my two cents worth of opinion, this movie is too cliche and too unrealistic for my liking. There is something lacking about this movie. The chemistry isn't there and it feels too scripted and predictable. Plus by using older actors to portray the grown up characters makes it hard for the viewer to feel "awww at least they met again " but rather who the hell are they, then finally understanding that they are the grown up versions. However, i have to say that there are some parts that got to my heart and surrounded it with honey. Overall, it is still a good romantic comedy movie especially for those who are a sucker for romance :)
          
On a side note, this movie got me wondering....happy endings are good which is why it is highly desirable in both the digital realm and real life. However, why do people never make the effort to create the happy ending they desire in their own life in any aspect. Everyone hopes that every relationship , every marriage , every friendship will have a happy ending but the problem is did you even try to create and maintain a happy ending ? Lovers break up because of a plethora of reasons-too bored of each other , the other half does not do special events, he/she is not the one etc... Love needs to be nurtured , love helps both parties to growth and it needs effort. Before you complain about not having a happy ending, ask yourself did you make the effort to choose your significant half every day over other girls or guys , did you make the effort to help each other become a better person they were than the day before , did you try ? I am no expert in love or relationship but all i know is our happy endings can only be written by us , we cannot dictate external factors but at least we should try. If film makers know that the way to break box office record is to write happy endings then why don't we aim to write our own happy endings to have a successful and meaningful life and relationships~
                 

~Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.

ANN LANDERS                               :)

It's all in the mind

For a student like me who just completed A levels, is most probably feeling extremely relieved and happy yet at the same time worried and lost . There is no need to explain about the cause of happiness. Finally, I get to take a breather and for once wake up and not immediately bury my head in heaps of textbooks , notes and practice papers. However, this state of euphoria is slowly diminishing as thoughts of not doing well, mistakes made and all the worst case scenarios starts popping up . It is in human nature to dwell on "spilled milk" and it is easier said than done to not think about it . Funny how we say something and do the exact opposite.We advice people to be positive, to think about the bright side yet behind this facade, we are drowning in our own fears, insecurities and negativity. We encourage people to be strong in times of adversity yet when we are placed in their shoes, we coward in fear and hear the same advice we gave to others and does not heed to it.It seems that these advises do not work until the person changes his mindset . Mindsets are like bulletproof, concrete walls, hard to break down with the use words but easily broken when the person has the will to change. That is only when advises actually starts to seep in. Yet ironically, at times our mentality crumbles down with the mere use of words and all that we build up turns into dust and we become dejected, indifferent and down.  So do we control our brain or does the brain control us ? I believe this again is all in the mind- the perspective of the person. Our mind alone is extremely power, the endless possibilities that can be created and the wonders that can be made. Needless to say it is imperative for us to utilized  our minds to best the of our abilities but yet again what determines the "best" depends on individual to judge and decide.

~ the above is just my humble opinion and reflection which was inspired by my post A levels situation :)